Welcome back for the second edition of this mind scratching write up.
Along feminists comes the common norm of “Independent women”. This particular one, I have fallen victim to some people’s perceptions which gets me annoyed most times. The word itself -Independent- has no problem, it’s how it’s used and how it is applied depending on the context, that gets me vexed up. Now is the time, I will speak up……atleast for myself if no one else agrees but hopfully I speak for many. I may sound a bit defensive but hear me out.
Indpendent women, as the generation has choosen to call many of us that have dared to look to God as our sole provider through many ways which largely include pursuing and excelling in the career call. I find that most women called “independent” are those in the corporate business world and those starting and running world changing organizations because they know the money games and they have dared to step into that game for worthwhile reasons and won’t settle for less than their value.
Being independent has it’s roots more in character make up than what meets the eye. The way many have been natured by parents, guardians and society at large has contributed to this norm and has brewed “Independent women”. But, at the end of the day, it’s not what truely defines that woman you call ”Ms Independent” because at the bottom of her very nature is a very dependant human (not in any bad way as needy) who longs to be set free to need & want but also allowed the freedom to meet her desires without having to “beg” or wait on someone if she can get it (if still sigle but if maried, please wait for consent). That mostly applies to materialistic things – like a gagdet lover that I am. To this many will view as self suffiecient which is not right, although most so called “independent women” use it as a tool for all the wrong reasons. (I smell attitude in this paragraph😁😁)
What many don’t realize is that there is no such thing as an independent woman, let alone a man. We are all communal dependant beings by nature. There will always be something that “independent woman” will need and has to depend on another to meet that need. Chasing dreams without someone there to love and guide you and hold you accountable through the ups and downs is a slippery road that many have reluctantly abundoned to those they deem “Independent”. May we not fall victim to the evil of only seeing what meets the eye, however high the wall maybe.
Don’t allow our strong charater to cloud your judgement of who we truely are! Find your true strength.
I am a strong woman, not “Ms Independent”.
Check out my upcoming final thought on this perception of Strong, Independent, Feminist.
Love ❤ Child